7.28.2008

Mothers Advice

So I have a 13 month old who doesn't like her bed...I know that most babies don't sleep well or like their beds or want to be confined especially when they learn that hey have legs that can move and get them around at rapid speed into any new mischevious dealing at arms reach....but what about when you are weaning a child and they won't sleep. Kehnly won't even lay next to me without wanting to nurse. She wakes after a few hours of sleep wanting to nurse...or be held (but only while I am standing up b/c the second i sit down or lay down.. guess what? Yep, you guessed it...nurse!)

WWJD... I keep wondering if God made babies to want to be held, why do we fight it? Why do we try to put them down and force independance on them... how many grown men and women do you know still sleep in their parents laps? Eventually they start sleeping through the night, so why do we rush it now? I know what the dr.s say and I know what the books say (BELIEVE ME, if there is a book about it i have read it) so I am asking some moms out their what THEY have done or are doing or know of others doing to help with this seperation anxiety.

I just really want to honor the Lord with everything in my life and that means especially my family, and I want to do what's best for Kehnley. It's not always about being comfortable, or meeting your own needs, it's about the child. We all have heard the saying that once you have a child their needs come before your own, but this, as a Christ follower, is not a new way of living we are supposed to put EVERYONE'S needs above our own!

"Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus: "...
Philipians 2

This is my prayer, that I might be molded to the likeness of Christ.

3 comments:

The Reeves bunch said...

Keri, I am so sorry that it is such a frustation for you. I didn't breast feed, so I don't know what to tell you. Just that I will be praying for you, I know that it has to be hard on you.

Ingram Gang said...

I didn't have a hard time weaning Noah because right before I weaned, he was only nursing once a day. Plus, I was pregnant so I think that changed my milk supply and he noticed the change.
But, I do know that he has gone through many "phases" in his 27 months of life. Sleep phases, separation phases, independence phases and so on. I distinctly remember him going through a 2nd separation phase around that age.
It could be that Kehnley just happens to be going through a "phase" at the same time you are trying to wean her.
Of course I can't tell you what to do, but if it were me, I might try continuing to nurse maybe once a day, at night just to insure her that you are still there and haven't abandoned her.
Isn't this parenting thing full of questions!?
Geeeze.
I know it will all turn out well. Like you said, she won't be nursing or sleeping with you when she's in high school :)

Jill said...

Hi, I found you on Mandy's page. I'm going through the same thing with my baby, she's 13 months as well. Were down to only bedtime feedings but they seem to last ALL night long!